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Positive Encouragement
for My Trucker
Using a Weekly Theme


Vicki has learned over the years that Mike responds better to positive encouragement than anything else. She shares this understanding -- as a trucker's wife about her trucker husband -- with the other truckers' wives in the hopes of building up and strengthening marriages and families with at least one professional truck driver.

Why is this important from a money saving perspective? There are a number of reasons:

  1. When a trucking couple has committed love, there is no room mentally for affairs, misplaced affections or expensive legal proceedings.

  2. When a trucker is assured of the affection of a spouse, he/she is not distracted by thoughts about "their last fight" or other relational problems such that an accident is more likely to occur.

  3. When a trucking couple is not only in tune with each other emotionally but are in tune together spiritually, they can look together for strength from their spiritual guide. For example, they may look to God to meet their financial needs, exercise patience regarding spending and avoid debt (or work to pay it off).


Definitions as a Backdrop for Positive Encouragement

Dictionary.com defines "encouragement" as "the act of encouraging" and lists the synonyms "praise, support, boost, lift, endorsement."

OK, so let's back up and look at the word encourage. It means:

  1. to inspire with courage, spirit, or confidence;
  2. to stimulate by assistance, approval, etc.
  3. to promote, advance, or foster

So, isn't the term "positive encouragement" redundant? After all, isn't all "encouragement" "positive"? Not necessarily!



Stimuli, Motivation and Positive Encouragement

Not everyone responds to the same "motivational techniques" the same way. Different people are spurred into action different ways. It is also possible that a trigger that works in one aspect of a person's life will completely fail in another.

Perhaps you've heard the adage "men need respect, women need praise." Well, we think that men need both respect and praise, just as women do.

One thing that can help trucking couples and families is to focus on a weekly theme of positive encouragement.

In our case, Mike is now a local truck driver who needs to have his lunches packed each weekday when he goes to work.

Yellow sticky notes containing Scripture verses and 'I love you!' that Vicki Simons puts in her trucker husband Mike Simons' lunches.Vicki prepares his lunches with a yellow sticky note containing

  • a Bible verse or short section of Scripture and
  • the words "I love you!"

She puts each note on the lid of his sandwich box so Mike can easily find it. As you can see from the photo at right, he places most of these notes on our refrigerator door at the end of the day.

In a truck situation, notes like these could be put on a truck wall (if they will stick) or a piece of paper taped to the wall.

Vicki selects Scripture verses that focus on a "theme of the week." The subject has to be big enough to write out at least 5 verses (Monday through Friday). 

Most of the time, Vicki looks for recurring words of phrase for the verses she picks. Other times, she may pick verses based on similar situations but using different phrases to describe the action.

Sometimes, if the topic is especially large, she may write out more than one verse per day. (Bonus verses!)

This small action does a number of things for us:

  • It reinforces the first priority of God in our individual lives and marriage;
  • It spurs conversation about the theme;
  • It keeps Mike mentally engaged, at times guessing about the theme of the week if it isn't at first apparent; and
  • It undergirds in a tangible way (if only through a simple sticky note) Vicki's love for Mike.


Positive Encouragement as it Applies to Real Life

There are, in general, two types of topics: positive and negative.

Although there are plenty of positive topics in the Bible -- or Bible encouragement -- Vicki does not limit herself to those. She makes sure, however, to focus much more on positive topics than negative ones.

  • We want to encourage thinking about and modeling our behavior after positive topics, like this:
    • "Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things."
      -- Philippians 4:8
  • We want to learn from the examples that the Bible sets forth and avoid modeling behavior after negative things, like what is written about in 1 Corinthians 10:6-13.
    • "Now these things happened as examples for us, so that we would not crave evil things as they also craved."
      -- 1 Corinthians 10:6
    • "Now these things happened to them as an example, and they were written for our instruction, upon whom the ends of the ages have come."
      -- 1 Corinthians 10: 11

Sometimes, there is something going on in our lives about which Vicki writes out verses. One week, we were engaged with a group of people where we needed "unity" -- so Vicki wrote out verses on that topic.

In order for trucker wives to select Scripture verses like this, they have to know enough about what's going on in their trucker husbands' lives on the road.

Scripture verse and 'I love you!' on a yellow sticky note.

If you don't know, ask questions like:

  • What was the best part of your day?
  • What interesting things did you see in your travels today?
  • How is everything between you and your driver manager?

The photo at left shows a sticky note on which Vicki wrote out 1 John 5:4, during the week she chose to focus on the theme of "victory."

If you're having trouble finding inspiration, you may want to look for keywords on Bible.cc, one of Vicki's favorite online Bible resources. You can look up Scripture verses in lots of different versions of the Bible on that website.



Writing Positive Encouragement Notes Over Long Distances?

A trucker's wife (or girlfriend, for that matter) whose trucker husband (or boyfriend, as the case may be) is gone for days or weeks at a time can find a way to make sure that "her man" is encouraged at least once daily. There are a number of ways to do this.

  • If you still want to send written notes with him, send out enough to cover every day he'll be gone. Don't make it easy for him to read ahead (perhaps by putting each note in a sealed envelope).
  • If you have email, perhaps you can send one each day.
  • If trucker husbands and wives have separate Twitter accounts they can send each other tweets. Although the social media is quite public, you can send Direct Messages (DMs) to folks whom you follow who follow you back. Of course, if you have your settings set that way, you will receive an email with the content of the DM anyway. So, it isn't completely private.
  • Although there is a way to set a scheduled Direct Message on Twitter, at present, we don't know of a way to schedule the sending of a series of different Direct Messages to someone. To send out different messages each day, you'll most likely need to login to Twitter each day to send out a post.
  • There are services -- even free versions -- that allow you to schedule tweets in advance.
  • If it doesn't cost you anything extra (or if you agree that it is more important to pay for a text than to not get one), you can send a text message to a device that receives these.

    Vicki learned how to send a text via an email from her computer. Beware, however, that texting is visual and a trucker is not to take his eyes off the road to look at a text.
  • What about using the phone? Sure, you can use that, but Vicki chooses written communication as her means of positive encouragement for Mike during his work day. Verbal words of positive encouragement are fine (especially in a benediction, like the closing "Good Night" song of the old Lawrence Welk show), but there is something special to at least some husbands when their wives take the time to write out their love. (If you don't think written words of encouragement are important, consider how large the greeting card industry is.)




Reciprocity of Positive Encouragement?

If a trucker's wife spends time writing out notes of positive encouragement for her trucker husband, does it follow that her husband will write notes of positive encouragement in like kind? Not necessarily. Or perhaps we should say "probably not." If your trucker husband (or boyfriend) works the types of long hours that Mike does, he may not make it a priority time-wise.

It is on this point that the husband and wife need to reach an agreement: what kind of praise and feedback do each of them need and want?

Stack of yellow sticky notes with Scripture verses and 'I love you!' that Vicki wrote for Mike as a means of positive encouragement.Vicki doesn't require written notes from Mike to know that he loves her. She sees his actions as a tangible form of his love.

Furthermore, all she has to do is look at the growing stack of yellow sticky notes upon which she has written out Bible verses and "I love you!" to know that she is reinforcing her love to Mike.

By the way, the stack of notes that you see in this picture is just one of the stacks we have accumulated in 2012. Vicki doesn't recall the exact date she began to put notes of positive encouragement in Mike's lunches, but if he works an average of 5 days each week and there are 52 weeks in a year, then that would amount to 260 notes per year.



He Won't Read My Notes of Positive Encouragement

We can just imagine the trucker's wife who claims that her trucker man won't read her "silly little" notes of positive encouragement.

Once, Vicki had something on her mind and instead of writing out "I love you!" (with an exclamation point) at the bottom of the note, she accidentally wrote out "I love you?" (with a question mark). Boy, oh boy! Did Mike ever catch that! He showed it to Vicki after he came home. She was shocked (how did that happen?) and immediately wrote a very thick exclamation point over the question mark! (Of course, this incident reinforced the point that Mike actually reads the notes Vicki writes for him. That's good!)

If the messages that a trucker's lady writes out are truly positive in nature and if she continually reinforces her love to her man, what may be required to get him to read his notes is either a matter of whetting his appetite (so that he will want to read them) or being consistent (the lady writes every day).

Guys chase after gals in their courting days and appreciate a bit of mystery. So, if the opportunity avails itself (for example, if she has access to his truck when he's home), perhaps the lady can be clever in where she places her notes in his home away from home.

The first one could be put on his dash: "Since you'll be gone from home for two weeks, I have hidden 14 notes in this truck for you to find!"

Or instead of individual messages that can be found in random places, perhaps you can make some kind of more elaborate scavenger hunt for him.

The point is to solidify and strengthen your relationship. You know what kind of positive encouragement your guy needs.

Or do you? If you don't know what kinds of things best motivate him, ask him.



Technical Issues with Notes of Positive Encouragement

Vicki found out the hard way that some manufacturers of yellow sticky notes are now assembling some versions in zigzag fashion. If you lift the end of one of these stacks, they look sort of like an accordion. This was really aggravating to her. She likes the style of yellow sticky note where all of the notes have the sticky part in one direction only.

Don't think that you have to buy an expensive brand of sticky notes either. If you can buy generic ones at Wal-Mart for less than the name brand version at an office supply store, great.

If you'd rather invest in something a little sturdier (or even reusable) by way of a Bible card or other means of communicating positive encouragement, go for it. Just make sure there is enough variation and freshness in your notes to keep your trucker man engaged.

Also, if you put a card in a place where it can get damp (like with one of those refreezable ice packs in a lunchbox), be sure not to use ink that can "wipe off" and make a mess.






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Money saving tip: Here's an eye-opener: According to one article, "contrary to popular belief, when a relationship is in trouble it is men who suffer the most." Surprised?

The best depiction Vicki has seen of this is in the movie "Belle and the Beast: A Christian Romance" (on YouTube here with Spanish subtitles). When Craig played a dirty trick to make it look like Eric had Belle's father fired, the one who seemed to take their "break-up" hardest was Eric!

Of course, the movie is fiction. But we think that the principle applies in real life. Don't give your trucker any reason to obsess over relationships with home support team members back home (or even if you travel with your trucker full-time).

Vicki encourages truckers' wives to use positive encouragement with their trucker husbands to draw them together and keep their relationships strong. This is especially important if the trucker is away from home for days or weeks at a time.

Here are some ways to communicate respect.

Here is an inspiring idea for "date night" that can be transformed for spouses who aren't physically together.








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